The Missing Key to Abundance (That Las Vegas Taught Me)
Enter: the Mature Divine Feminine
If someone dropped you into the middle of a giant grocery store and said, “Okay. Your job is to consume every single thing in here,” you’d probably panic.
Or at minimum, aggressively head toward the chips aisle and then regret your choices shortly thereafter.
And yet… that’s basically how many people are interacting with abundance.
We say we want more abundance.
More opportunities.
More experiences.
More choices.
More options.
More expansion.
But what if the problem isn’t a lack of abundance?
What if the problem is that we haven’t learned how to discern within the abundance?
That realization hit me in Las Vegas. (Which is not where I expected to have a spiritual aha, but life is full of surprises.)
I’d just returned from the second trip in my three-trip extravaganza month. This stop was Las Vegas because my daughter and her boyfriend were attending Magic Con, and I got to tag along for a little working holiday.
Now, before going, I had heard many things about Vegas.
“It’s overwhelming.”
“It’s chaotic.”
“It’s sensory overload.”
“It’s too much.”
And guess what?
I loved it.
Not in a “woohoo let’s make questionable life choices at 2am” kind of way. (I didn’t even try gambling. Those machines were way too scary. )
More in a “humans are wildly creative and visionary beings” kind of way.
First of all, we stayed at a beautiful resort that felt like a peaceful oasis tucked away from the Strip, which helped immensely. I wasn’t immersed in the chaos 24/7. There was space to breathe. Space to work. Space to move my body and connect inward.
And then there was Vegas itself.
The architecture.
The imagination.
The absurdity.
The sheer scale of the ideas.
As I walked through the hotels and casinos and wildly elaborate themed spaces, I kept thinking:
Humans dreamed this up! Yay humans!
Someone had a vision for dancing fountains, Venetian canals, and pyramids in the desert. Others said an epic YES to giant glowing spheres and then gathered teams of people to bring those visions to life.
That’s incredible.
Vegas, to me, became a living example of abundance and human creative capacity.
But the more interesting realization was this:
The outer world does not have to dictate the inner world.
Vegas is objectively stimulating. Yet I didn’t feel overwhelmed by it, because overwhelm isn’t necessarily caused by what’s happening around us.
It’s often caused by losing connection with what’s happening within us.
I stayed deeply connected to my own energy while I was there, and because of that, I could enjoy the abundance without feeling consumed by it.
This is where the mature divine feminine comes in.
The youthful divine feminine wants to experience everything.
She’s like a little girl on a playground:
“I want the swings!”
“And the monkey bars!”
“And the slide!”
“And the butterflies!”
“And let’s blow dandelions too!”
It’s beautiful energy.
Playful.
Expansive.
Curious.
But it’s not discerning.
The mature divine feminine is different.
She understands that abundance is already here.
She doesn’t need to frantically grab at every opportunity, experience, or possibility.
She discerns within the abundance.
That distinction changed everything for me when I first learned it.
Because discernment feels sovereign.
Grounded.
Powerful.
Masterful.
It’s not restrictive.
It’s clarifying.
It’s realizing that just because something is available to you doesn’t mean you need to consume it.
(Again: Grocery store.)
You don’t walk into a grocery store trying to eat everything in it.
That would make you deeply uncomfortable (and likely require medical attention).
Yet, many people are approaching life that way.
Trying to do all the things.
Attend all the events.
Take all the opportunities.
Answer all the messages.
Consume all the content.
Say yes to everything.
That’s not abundance.
That’s indigestion.
Vegas became a beautiful practice in discernment for me.
I didn’t try to do everything.
Some parts of the day were devoted to peace, spaciousness, movement, breath, and work.
Other parts of the day were for wandering the Strip and marveling at human imagination and excess and sparkle and giant indoor canals that make absolutely no logical sense in the middle of the desert.
And because of that discernment, I didn’t leave Vegas depleted.
I left feeling expanded.
That’s the difference.
Not less abundance.
Better discernment within it.
And here’s the thing: I think that’s one of the missing keys people aren’t talking about.
We don’t need more abundance. (We’re made of it.)
We need a more grounded, sovereign way of interacting with the abundance that already exists.
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Sovereign.
That’s the energy we’re after.
Not consuming all of life’s abundance…
but learning how to consciously choose within it.
With grounded love and rebellious discernment,
Christina
🕺🏻Creator of Courageous Self-Care
🕺🏻Still thinking about the absurd brilliance of building Venice in the desert
🕺🏻Deeply devoted to choosing discernment over energetic indigestion every chance I get
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If you’re craving grounded spiritual expansion (instead of energetic indigestion), this is a beautiful time to join us. Click here for details and registration
